by Edward_
Personal note: Not sure how long I’ll be able to blog again, but will try for as long as my current circumstances hold out. It’s very nice to be able to, all the same.
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We went to see two films over the holiday weekend. One is highly controversial and, we knew before we went in, incredibly sad. The other we thought was going to be a much needed dose of comedy to lighten our mood after the first one, but turned out to be incredibly thoughtful as well. We didn’t realize that the second film offered the near opposite vision from the first for what it means to be gay in America. The films were "Brokeback Mountain" and "The Family Stone." I don’t think I’ll forget either one for many years to come.
The "gay cowboy" movie as our pathetic excuse for a national media has taken to calling it is, as you’ve read or seen for yourself, incredibly beautiful. If your heart doesn’t ache at the end of this film, you might just be dead.
"Brokeback Mountain," in and among other themes of longing and true love, explored the worst of being gay in America. The loneliness, the duplicity, the violence, the self-loathing, the heartbreak, the bigotry, and the wasted years. I know there are many Americans, like Larry David (you have to read this, it’s amazing), who refuse to go see this film. It’s their loss. They’re denying themselves one of our country’s most exquisitely told, most human of tales.
"The Family Stone," in and among other themes of the power of family and familial love, explored the very best of being gay in America. The gay son (and his lover) wants to adopt a child, is as welcome as any other of the four siblings with their significant others in the parents’ home, and in one incredibly well-written scene that exposes the soft bigotry that underlies so much of the so-called "tolerance" toward gays in this country, is told by his mother in front of everyone that he is more "normal" than any other person in the house.
I don’t want to spoil either film if you haven’t seen them, but I do want to discuss how these films work to dispel the myth that gay marriage is somehow "anti-family."